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Life Second to None
Written by Sarah Kelly

A life second to none

A path from surviving to thriving

by Sarah Kelly

When I fi rst got sober, I couldn’t imagine life without alcohol – and I certainly couldn’t imagine fun without alcohol.

What would that even look like? All of my social activities involved drinking. I assumed that life would be rather dull. I would be happy enough and it would all be fi ne. Blissful? No. Joyful? Nope.

It would just be.

I would figure out a way to survive life and make the best of it. Drinking was no longer a choice so not drinking had to be the way forward.

What I didn’t realize is that reality was quite the opposite of my belief. I was barely surviving life with alcohol. In the midst of addiction, I didn’t know the freedom or joy of living a full life because I had a very small life.

I had big ambitions and outside success, but I couldn’t celebrate them or be fully present.

There’s a saying that some use after a length of time in recovery to refer to their, “a life second to none” that refers to having the best life possible.
Why is this?

Because life in recovery opens doors that we could have never imagined.

DON’T BE AFRAID TO DREAM BIG

Developing the belief that one is worthy of a good life. People in recovery are often used to feeling pain, hopelessness, depression, anxiety, and uncertainty. While it seems counterintuitive, sometimes feeling discomfort seems more comfortable because it is a known feeling.

For many, having good brings about a feeling of “when is the other shoe going to drop?” This is normal! It takes a while to rewire the brain to think more positively. In the meantime, start by a simple affi rmation, “I am worthy.”

THRIVING IS DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE.

Start examining your dreams and desires. What does a full life mean to you? What do you want your life to look like in five or ten years? What brings you joy? Envisioning your future can help you to build your future.

SET REALISTIC GOALS

Dreaming big doesn’t mean big things happen overnight. Most people can’t run a marathon if they’ve never run a mile before.

IT’S OK TO MAKE MISTAKES OR CHANGE YOUR MINDChange takes time, and small steps lead to big results. A great way to move forward is by goal setting using the SMART acronym, which stands for Specifi c, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely. Set a specifi c goal, create a measurable way to track that goal, defi ne the steps to make it achievable, ask yourself if it’s realistic, and set a time frame to complete. For example, using the running analogy, a SMART goal could be, “I am going to run a 5k in three months. I am going to use a mobile app to help train on how to increase distance and frequency. I plan to run three times per week until I make my goal.” You can set SMART goals in any facet of your life.

IT’S OK TO MAKE MISTAKES OR CHANGE YOUR MIND

Resiliency is one of the keys to thriving.
Mistakes are going to happen.
Opportunities are going to be missed. Some things aren’t going to work out. Or you may realize halfway down the road that you don’t like the path you took.
It’s all okay – you’ve done nothing wrong.
People in recovery are some of the most resilient people because you’ve already bounced back from a seemingly hopeless state. You can overcome setbacks!

There is no timeline on what thriving means in your life.
Sometimes it’s the setbacks that propel some forward beyond what they had originally envisioned.

In early sobriety, someone told me to write down fi ve things that I wanted in my life and she guaranteed it would be true in fi ve years from that date. I opened the list six years later, and none of it was true. What was true is that I was happier
in my life than I had ever been because I had found peace within. Ten years later, that list is getting checked off slowly but surely.

 

Sarah Kelly,owner of Sarah Kelly Coaching and coowner of ‘Love Yourself’, is a National Board Certifi ed Health & Wellness Coach (NBC-HWC) and Connecticut Community for Addiction Recovery (CCAR) Certifi ed Recovery Coach. Sarah is an active member of the recovery community.

Are you ready to re-enter the workforce?

A grant with Maine Department of Labor- Connecting With Opportunities- can help!

GOAL:

To create opportunities for individuals impacted directly or indirectly, by the opioid crisis to receive the support, training and guidance they need to access and maintain substainable employment.

CRITERIA:
• Impacted by the opioid epidemic or would like to work in the fi elds related to SUD treatment or recovery AND
• Workers who have been laid off
or
• Unemployed for more than 27
weeks

CONTACT INFORMATION:

Cumberland, Knox, Lincoln, Sagadahoc, Waldo and York
County residents:
Workforce Solutions:
Gerard Corcoran,
207-274-3305, Gerard.Corcoran@
goodwillnne.org
Aroostook County residents:
Aroostook County Action
Program (ACAP):
Meghan O’Berry,
207-554-4154,
moberry@acap-me.org
Androscoggin, Franklin, Hancock,
Kennebec, Oxford, Penobscot,
Piscataquis, Somerset and
Washington County residents:
Eastern Maine Development
Corporation (EMDC):
Doug Dunbar, 207-299-5626,
OpportunityGrant@emdc.org

Sarah Kelly

Sarah Kelly

Sarah Kelly, owner of Sarah Kelly Coaching, is a National Board Certified Health & Wellness Coach (NBC-HWC) and Connecticut Community for Addiction Recovery (CCAR) Certified Recovery Coach. Sarah is an active member of the recovery community.