What nourishes you today may not tomorrow
What people, places, and activities feel most nourishing to your mind, body, and spirit? Do you have a regular practice that keeps you feeling your best? Do you ever go through periods where the things that once nurtured you no longer do?
Many times over the years, when things have been going relatively smoothly in my life, my mind assumes that the tools I use for self-care will work forever… and if I just keep to my daily schedule of x, y, or z thing (i.e. yoga, meditation, or going on nature walks), I’ll be centered and happy for life!
But then … you know what’s coming - some thing or many things “hit the fan,” and suddenly none of the tools that worked so brilliantly for me before seem to be helping much anymore. You’d think I’d catch on sooner than I do—maybe after a week or two of these activities and my overall life feeling fl at and empty-but alas, it usually takes a while, and a rather ungraceful fall before I begin to realize that perhaps I need to reassess what I’m doing.
I don’t know about you but this scares the bejesus out of me, every time. ‘If that doesn’t work anymore, what will!?’ Maybe nothing ever will!
But when I come to my senses, or rather, come back to my spirit, I begin to see that these times of challenge are actually times of great potential growth in disguise. Times of growth are not times to do what we’ve always done in the same way we have always done them. Rather, times of growth urge us to step beyond our normal activities and normal ways of life to discover what else is out there.
Times of challenge and growth beckon us to look at things differently, to redefine what we want, to redefine what we need and what feels good and nourishing to us.
During challenging periods, we need to redefine what we most need every day, or maybe even moment to moment. Perhaps most of all, times of growth call on us to redefine who we are and who we want to be while we’re here on this planet.
If you’re struggling to figure out what nourishes you or fills your cup, or if you’re in a stage where you need to redefine these things, know that you are in good company.
There may be times when we have to pause, reassess, and go back to the drawing board and maybe ask yourself:
“What are some tools I haven’t used for a while that have really made me feel nourished in the past?”
“What are some tools I haven’t tried yet that I’d really like to try?”
“Who in my life that loves and supports me may have some ideas or insight?"
Like any goal or intention we may have for ourselves, nurturing ourselves is a journey, not an end destination. What works one day may not work another; what feels great one day may feel the opposite way on another.
The key thing is to have an open mind, to be willing to experiment and try new things, and to reach out to trusted others when we’re feeling stuck.
Perhaps the greatest thing to remember about nurturing ourselves is that we cannot do it alone!